We are wives, mothers, co-authors, dating coaches, and have been best friends for the last 30 years.We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.
The worst that can happen is that he will say yes and date you, leading you to believe that you are in a relationship before eventually ditching you for the woman he really likes - probably one who has followed the Rules. For example, a 30-year-old should wait 12 hours and a 40-plus-year-old should wait a day to reply.These text-back times do not apply to weekends, specifically from Friday at 6pm to Sunday at 6pm. So never send a 'friend request' to a man you like.There are a couple of other critical factors with texting: never, ever double text (write twice before he responds once) and always respond with fewer words than he's texted to you. ' you should write back: 'Sure, that sounds like fun.' You should not answer calls or messages after midnight, because you are busy or need your beauty sleep or, quite frankly, it's none of his business why. He will know you're interested and any challenge will be gone.Today, Ellen is married with two children and lives in New York, and Sherrie is married with a teenage daughter and lives in New Jersey.We did The Rules, wrote The Rules, and have helped millions of women do The Rules, too. Whether you were recently hurt or haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you want immediate gratification and compensation for all the pain and heartache of recent years or even decades.